From baby showers to bottles, maternity concierge Rosie Pope knows everything about the perils and joys of preparing to have a baby. Often this means stepping in and helping expectant parents resolve their relationship issues before their baby arrives.
Here’s a few of the important relationship lessons that can be learned from Pregnant in Heels:
1. Work out relationship issues before the baby arrives. As Pope points out, you want to bring your child into a calm environment. If you find yourself arguing all the time or have relationship issues that need ironing out, it’s best to work them out now before you’re faced with the additional stress of caring for another person. A marriage counsellor can help you get back on track so you’re both on the same page when the new baby arrives.
2. It’s important to connect and keep things sexy as a couple even when you’re pregnant. Discomfort, body image issues and differences in sex drive, are all challenges that couples face when it comes to sex during pregnancy. Be patient with each other and take time to connect as a couple, whether sex is involved or not. Plan a romantic night together, look into each other’s eyes and talk openly. Keeping the intimacy alive in your relationship during pregnancy will keep you connected as a couple once you’re parents.
3. Make birth decisions together. What feels right for you may not feel right for your partner and vice versa. If your partner’s idea of giving birth naturally outside under a tree sounds like a complete nightmare, speak up! Talk about these issues openly, listen to each other and try to find common ground. However, at the end of the day it’s important that the mother feel comfortable with the birth plan and what will be happening to her body.
4. It’s OK to accept help. As a mom of three with a flourishing career and business, Rosie Pope is an example of a modern woman who really “does it all.” However, even sometimes Rosie needs to ask for help. Pregnancy is a challenging time. Putting your trust in your partner and allowing them to support you will make the journey so much easier.
5. Keep in mind that one person can’t be “the boss” in the relationship. Both parties need to have a voice. In order to provide a good environment for your baby, you need to work together as a team.
6. Good communication as a couple will help you be better parents. Life will undoubtedly become more complicated when the little one arrives. Take this time now to practice communicating openly and honestly with your partner. If needed, a marriage counsellor can help with this!
7. Practice active listening. This means truly listening to your partner and showing you’re doing so by acknowledging each other’s feelings and needs. By listening to your partner your relationship will grow and become richer.
8. Take time for yourself away from the relationship to do things you enjoy. This can be anything from going to the gym to taking an art class. Either way, making time for personal satisfaction will make you happier as a couple and better parents all around.
9. Plan a “baby-moon” together. Although jetting off to the Dominican Republic for an impromptu “baby-moon” before you give birth isn’t realistic for most couples, Rosie encourages couples to take time to connect before the baby arrives. This could mean spending a weekend away together or even just planning a few quiet, relaxing nights in together before the baby arrives.
10. The baby is #1. This is why it’s important to work out any relationship kinks before the baby arrives. By showing respect, love and patience towards each other, you set a positive example for your child.
Simone Paget is a freelance writer and the author of Skinny Dip, a cheeky blog about love, sex, relationships and everything in between. When she’s not writing her heart out, she loves wandering around her city, large cup of coffee in hand, in search of the next great story.