I got married just over one year ago. My “Big Day” was an amazing day, one I will never forget. It was beautiful, the weather was perfect, and I married my love, Jake. Looking back, though, I think about all of the things I fretted over when planning my wedding, and in retrospect I really wish I hadn’t let them get to me.
For example, my bridesmaids’ dresses. I ordered them in a light purple and, when they came in, they were the same shade as Barney the Dinosaur. Yep, my girls looked like Barney. And how about my dress: When I went to pick it up two days before the wedding, the seamstress had forgotten to dry clean it, so it looked like it had been folded, twisted and dusted for fingerprints. Lest we forget, there’s the budget for the whole wedding. Our initial budget had been blown a couple months into planning and, as the Big Day loomed closer, I was starting to worry we were going to go broke.
So needless to say, as the wedding approached, I became more and more stressed out. And you know what I did? I ate. Yep, I’m an emotional eater.
I talk about emotional eating with my clients all the time, so I thought I understood it. Plus, I know I have a sweet tooth, but I’m pretty good at balancing out in my diet and making food exchanges when necessary, in order to keep my weight stable. Honestly, though, over the eight months I spent planning my wedding, my cravings seemed to skyrocket. I swear, any time I was in a grocery store, it was as though the chocolate was calling my name. And not just a simple chocolate bar — I’m talking about the specialty chocolate made at the store where they package it in pieces so it looks trendy, but the packaging doesn’t tell you how many calories it contains. I remember telling myself, “It’s not that bad, it has almonds.” Ugh.
Before I knew it, a wedding dress that was once loose was now fitting a little snug. OMG! But did that make me stop eating chocolate? Nope — and for two reasons. First, my stress levels were just getting higher and higher and while I wish I could tell you I de-stressed by hitting the gym and lifting weights… I didn’t. I just ate more chocolate. The second reason is that when I gained a couple of pounds, the dress actually looked better, because it actually fit better. Now, don’t get me wrong — it’s not like my plan was to grow into my wedding dress. (No woman would ever say, “You know, I would like to gain a few pounds for my wedding day!”) But I was so preoccupied with everything that I couldn’t seem to find the time to take care of my fitness and diet the way I usually would.
What I wish I knew when planning my wedding
With all of that wedding stress more than one year behind me (thank God), I’m my usual self again. Looking back, the wedding was an incredible journey but I would have loved to have known these three things.
Don’t buy a dress that you can “grow” into
Don’t set yourself up to gain weight! Don’t make emotional eating easier to do! If you must get your dress re-sized, then have it altered, early on.
Do your best not to stress out
As the saying goes, Don’t sweat the small stuff. In the end, it will all work out — trust me. My Barney bridesmaids looked fine, my dress was fine, and my hubby and I didn’t go broke.
Have someone run the wedding for you
Get someone you trust — either an amazing friend or a wedding planner — to run the Big Day for you. The last thing you want is to have to worry about the kitchen running out of chicken for your guests. Appoint someone else as your go-to person for every little thing. They call your wedding day the Big Day; in fact, it’s a huge day. And it’s yours — enjoy it.
To all the married Slice readers out there: What do you wish you’d known before walking down the aisle?