If you run your own company and are at the top of your game, to say the least, chances are you’ve put almost all of your love, blood and tears into that empire that you’ve created. But now that you’ve found success and are at peace with where you’re at professionally, you still can’t seem to find your other half.
Is there something you’re missing, or are men not asking you out because they’re intimidated by your success?
1. Be open-minded.
If you’re a workaholic or used to being in charge, chances are you have your mind set on who your match will be, what they need to offer you and how they’ll play a role in your busy life. But as an entrepreneur you should know better than most that you need to think outside the box. By being so set in the idea of someone, you are likely blinding yourself to other potential suitors.
2. Don’t be afraid to ask him out.
Welcome to the real world where women aren’t the only ones scared of rejection. In fact, even some of the most seemingly confident and successful men don’t want to get turned down. If you portray an image of success and all that goes with it, it’s likely that – if someone has a thing for you – they might not even say anything.
Why not take the reins (which we already know you’re good at) and ask him out? Perhaps you can shoot him an email inviting him to a networking event, or ask him if he wants to unwind over drinks after a hectic day? By taking control of the situation, you take the pressure off of him, which will allow you to see whether or not he’s actually intimidated, or just not that interested.
3. Don’t focus on your rise to the top
You know when you’re out with friends who might be…materialistic? They tell you about their latest Prada shoes, Hermes scarves, the new deal their hubby just landed and constantly talk about all the stuff they have? We often tend to avoid these friends because, not only do they lack substance but they make us feel like we can never compare.
The relation to dating? Men want to feel like an equal. They want to feel masculine. By talking about the latest clients you landed or latest work successes, you are in fact making them feel inadequate. When you start dating someone new, or going on many first dates, be attentive to how your dates respond to you yapping about your triumphs. It’s ok to talk to them about what you do, but focus more on your passion and less on the notches under your power-suit belt.
4. Let him pick up the bill
Men want to feel appreciated and masculine. I’m sure he knows you can afford the bill (hey, we all know you can afford the bill) but let him pick it up. It will give him the sense that he can still take care of you and make you happy. Just let him choose the venue – this way he can be in his comfort zone and his price range to boot.
Jen Kirsch is a relationship expert, columnist and blogger. For quick tips and tricks, follow her on Twitter @jen_kirsch. Read her posts every Tuesday on Slice.ca.
