Everybody (and their moms) knows that you’re a great catch. On top of looks, smarts and success, you can hold your own and often have the attention of men. Despite being the epitome of a “good catch,” you are still – wait for it – single.
Tired of people asking you why? Here’s how to get them off your back.
Be real
Some people take longer to get over past heartbreak than others. Just because your ex might be in a new relationship, doesn’t mean you’re ready to move forward. Without divulging TMI (too much information), let the inquirer know that you need some time to heal after your last relationship. Not only does this show them your vulnerable side, but it will also stop them in their tracks. No one wants to push someone who is still nursing a broken heart. If anything, they might ask you if you want to talk about it. In that case, you can either be happy to have landed yourself a shoulder to lean on and possibly, some great insight, or you can just reply that you’d rather not but appreciate the gesture.
Be cheeky
Perhaps you’re in that stage I like to call “research”. You know the one: you’re dating around, having fun, meeting new people and are open to new opportunities. Just because everyone else is putting a ring on it doesn’t mean you need to. Your coupled-up friends may not understand what’s so great about being single, and might frown upon late nights out and yet another story of another notch under your belt, but people settle down at different times. It’s important to experience different phases of your life. When they ask, tell them not to worry, that they can live vicariously through you. Let them know that through your juicy details of the ups and downs, perhaps they can learn a new thing or two to share with their other half.
Show them you’re OK
Things didn’t work out with your ex and you’re not ready to jump back into the dating pool without your life jacket. When things don’t work out, it’s important to learn from it and grow. Once you are aware of your weaknesses and potential flaws from your past relationship, you should focus on trying to improve those things to make yourself a better mate. Since we attract what we put out, it’s important not to jump into a serious relationship until we are our best selves. Let Curious George know that you’re taking the time to focus on yourself now that you’re finally single and reassure them that you’re sure you’ll be fine when the time is right.
Jen Kirsch is a relationship expert, columnist and blogger. For quick tips and tricks, follow her on Twitter @jen_kirsch. Read her posts every Tuesday on Slice.ca.
