“In case you never get a second chance: don’t be afraid! And what if you do get a second chance? You take it!”
- C. JoyBell C.
This week my friend’s husband received a life-saving double lung transplant, a true miracle. Moments like this are always bittersweet for me. I am over the moon for my friend, her husband and her family, yet a part of me can’t help but think of the loss another family suffered. I was part of that suffering family 17 years ago when I lost my brother. He was a donor, so the end of his life brought new beginnings and second chances for sixteen other people and their families — a true miracle.
A second chance is such a gift. Just for a moment imagine what you would do with a second chance at something…at anything. I try and live my life as if it were my second chance, not for me but for my brother. He had no fear, he was an adrenaline junkie and lived every second of his life with the volume on full blast. He was a true lover of life. When he passed I promised myself that for him, I would live loud. I try to incorporate some form of loudness into my life every day, no matter how small.
Sometimes my living loud gestures are minimal and sometimes I go for it and face my fears head on. For example I have a debilitating fear of heights, Acrophobia. This is in the top three fears for people, along with Aerophobia, the fear of flying, which I also have and Glossophobia, the fear of public speaking (which I absolutely do not have). Pass me the mic! I digress…
In facing my fear of heights, I went straight to the top (pun intended) of the CN Tower and did the Edge Walk. I’m not going to lie, it was once of the hardest things I have ever done and I peed a little. I have not tried yet but I bet I could now climb the hell out of a ladder.
I don’t think you have to have some traumatic event in your life to get a second chance, I believe you can create your own. To me a second chance can simply mean taking more chances.
There are many definitions in the dictionary for chance, this is my favourite: a possibility or probability of anything happening.
That is an amazing definition, because anything can happen. Take more chances and live with less regret, less “what ifs?”.
I am not sure what my friend’s husband is going to do with his second chance. However, knowing how precious life is, I know he is going to live loud.
What was your second chance? Did you get one? Did you change how you lived? Are you going to make one?
A huge thank you to all those that sign their donor cards. You and your families are true miracles.
Dee Brun is the award-winning author of Libations of Life: A Girl’s Guide to Life One Cocktail at a Time, a cocktail chef and stylist, TV personality, home entertaining guru, writer, humorist, wife, mother of 4, TV Junkie, shoe-aholic, and borderline George Clooney stalker. Read her column, Isn’t it Deelightful, every Friday on Slice.ca.