You’re invited to an event with your main squeeze and you want to make a good impression on his friends, colleagues and family. But being thrown into a situation with a group of people you haven’t met before can be daunting. You don’t want to cling to your date’s arm, making them babysit you through the event, but at the same time you don’t even know how to begin bonding with strangers.
So how can you work a room while not only enjoying your partner’s company, but enjoying the company of others?
1. Hone into your inner confidence
A confident girl is an attractive girl. Whether it’s buying a new budget-friendly dress that makes you feel gorgeous or hitting up a local blow-dry bar for a quick blow and go, prepping with things that make you feel great will help you exude confidence. Confidence will not only attract people, but will also make you feel comfortable enough to initiate conversations.
2. Get the run-down prior to the event.
Ask your date to give you the Coles Notes version of who will be there, who to steer clear of and what sort of topics you should avoid bringing up. You don’t want to overstep your boundaries or offend anyone. If you’re in the clear, and aware about not rubbing anyone the wrong way, you’ll be able to have smooth conversations as well as some backup knowledge of what to bring up if you need a one-liner to initiate conversation.
3. Do your research.
Many assistants make notes for major events breaking down a who’s who of the guest list, offering an image so that the guest knows who to say hi to and a few lines about that person. To make a good first impression, do your research prior to the event. Have your date show you images of the people you should know about on Facebook or the company site. That way, if he goes to grab drinks or heads to the washroom and you’re alone, you can know who you should talk to.
4. Give your date a break.
When it comes to social events, people include those that are fun and easy to be around. If your partner is including you in something he has, if you make him feel appreciated, he’ll be more likely to invite you in the future. Having said that, if you start up with him at the event for neglecting you or nag him for drinking too much, he’s not going to want to bring you along in the future. Take some initiative to give him a bit of space so he doesn’t feel suffocated. Offer to get him a round of drinks, or if you see someone you know, tell him you’ll be back shortly, giving him a reassuring hand squeeze and smile. This will go a lot further than questioning his every move.
Those who get rave reviews from others are people who are confident, charming, personable and engaging. Ditch the snob or shy act, be open to conversations and most importantly, know when to make an exit.